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You know that you love your child and your child knows that they are loved.  When most of the below needs are met more often than not, your child's likely to feel loved and secure.

Peaceful parenting is a model of parenting that's neither authoritarian or permissive, but aims to support parents to guide their children with a consideration of their feelings and the unmet needs that drive a child's behaviour.  Identifying and meeting needs helps children feel more settled, less stressed and allows them to return to a more calm and balanced state.

This emotional needs checklist can help parents identify what might be missing and what's needed for their child when their child's behaviour shows that they're  out of balance.  All children are good children doing their best and reflecting their family's environment and reflecting the image of themselves that they're receiving.   There may well be small steps you can take towards meeting those needs today.  All children have their ups and downs each and every day, their happy and their sad moments.  "Happy, confident and co-operative" relates to how a child feels in a particular moment rather than always.  Yet, when many of a child's needs are met, they will generally be less stressed, and generally happier, more confident and hence more co-operative more of the time.

Happy, Confident, Co-Operative children generally …….

If your child’s behaviour is aggressive, chaotic, hyperactive, withdrawn or otherwise problematic on a regular basis, for the neurotypical child, this will be symptomatic of some unmet needs.  Extremely out of balance behaviour can of course also be indicative of health issues or of the child having neurological conditions that need to be assessed.  There can be so many and very varied influences upon the child that affects their health, balance, wellbeing and coping capacity.  The above list is not meant to cover every possibility, but can provide helpful food for thought of where some stresses may be stemming from for the neurotypical child, which can perhaps be changed or eliminated.  And indeed, when a child does have a neurological, mental health or physical health problem, it becomes even more important that their stress is lowered by meeting as many of the above needs as possible.

There may well be some small steps you can start to take to meet these needs and help your child return to feeling more settled and secure.

  • Do you need help and support to better understand what your children are communicating through their behaviour?
  • Do you need help and support to make changes to your lifestyle or to your styles of communication within the family?
  • Where can you access that help in your family, extended family or community?
  • Would you benefit from joining our online peaceful parent village, which is a safe space where you can seek support and advice from experienced peaceful parenting mentors, from Genevieve and from other parents and educators who are committed to peaceful parenting, and where there's an extensive resource library and eCourses full of videos, audio, cheat sheets, workbooks etc for you to learn at your own pace.
3 Comments
  1. live healthy plans 6 years ago

    Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I truly appreciate your efforts and I will be waiting
    for your next post thank you once again.

  2. Pat Torngren 6 years ago

    Thank you, I absolutely loved this article and have put up a link on my web site. When children are being “difficult” we sometimes forget that their basic needs are not being addressed and that addressing them solves the problem — it’s as simple as that. Children can’t always tell us when their basic needs are not being met so this is a great checklist to have. Thanks Genevieve!

  3. Charissa | mamawonder 6 months ago

    Thanks for sharing this list.I have two children’s mother.So just not me. It is very important for all parents to know it.Because I think it is our duty to know their needs.

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