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Wendy Andrews replied to the topic Sympathising to hurts in the forum General forum for peaceful parenting related questions and discussions 5 years, 8 months ago
Hi Trudy, in response to your last comment on this thread, it may then pay to simply be an empathetic ear to your friend, asking her about the particular stresses in her life and either leaving it at that good listening or coming up with a solution or two that works for everyone. Easing the Mama’s stress will likely have flow on positive effects…[Read more]
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Wendy Andrews replied to the topic Learn about changing your brain's default mode from criticism to being present in the forum Self-healing 7 years, 11 months ago
I got to hear half of it too and found it fascinating.
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Wendy Andrews replied to the topic Meditation and self-awareness in the forum Self-healing 8 years ago
That’s fantastic Gina. I’m putting this free online resource link here. It’s for the Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction course I’ve attended twice now…this resource even includes the mindfulness/meditation exercises in the left hand column.
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Wendy Andrews started the topic childhood story in the forum Self-healing 8 years ago
A tribute to the child that you were: “There is real healing power in creating a cohesive story of our early life – a story woven with love and compassion for the child we once were. Sadly, most of us don’t recognise the bravery, determination and resourcefulness we showed as children in the face of often considerable challenges. Rather than…[Read more]
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Wendy Andrews replied to the topic Introduce yourself in the forum Self-healing 8 years, 1 month ago
Hi Denisa, I hear your frustration and pain.
I want to reassure you that you can absolutely recover from the trauma of your past (and I’m so sorry it was so awful).
There are reasons your sister is different. She may have a different temperament; you may be more empathetic/sensitive, so daily life may have affected you more; you may have had…[Read more]
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Wendy Andrews replied to the topic Toddler aggression in the forum General forum for peaceful parenting related questions and discussions 8 years, 2 months ago
I hear your frustration! I was wondering similar to Bianca, Martine. If you can anticipate that the lashing out WILL continue until whatever it is, is out of her system, you may be able to stop the hit just as it’s about to happen, which is when the feelings are at the top of their arc….and where the warm limit can have the most effect i.e.…[Read more]
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Wendy Andrews replied to the topic Aha moments about the effect of sibling relationships in the forum Self-healing 8 years, 4 months ago
You’re welcome Bianca, would love to hear how you go.
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Wendy Andrews replied to the topic cPTSD not an excuse but awareness is key in the forum General forum for peaceful parenting related questions and discussions 8 years, 4 months ago
Bianca, if you are looking for articles to explain cptsd to others, one of the best websites I’ve come across by a guy who is walking the path himself, as well as helping many others, is
http://www.pete-walker.comHe can sometimes be a little hard to read (I have to go over and over some bits) but I relate to SO MUCH of what he is saying, once I figure it out!!
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Wendy Andrews replied to the topic Aha moments about the effect of sibling relationships in the forum Self-healing 8 years, 4 months ago
Another thing to add to Tab’s great ideas, Bianca, is to list all the ways your son is similar to your brother and then all the ways he is different. This helps the mind consciously separate the two people who’s few similarities have got linked.It’s great that you’re on to it!
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Margaret Rose and Wendy Andrews are now friends 8 years, 4 months ago
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jessica nethercott and Wendy Andrews are now friends 8 years, 4 months ago
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Joann Sando and Wendy Andrews are now friends 8 years, 4 months ago
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Wendy Andrews replied to the topic Meditations – do we need to come off guided ones? in the forum Self-healing 8 years, 5 months ago
Hi Bianca, I’ve read a couple of your other posts and am responding to this one first. I have also found it helpful to group my main issues under the CPTSD heading for now. And, this year, I’ve attended two Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction courses.
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Wendy Andrews replied to the topic Healing cries in the forum General forum for peaceful parenting related questions and discussions 8 years, 8 months ago
One other important point in regard to the holding Bianca: it is essential that, really, any type of ‘holding’ is at the bottom of the list of things to try. It can be more useful to think of it as ‘corralling’, if people and things need protecting….and of course always preferable to aim for spotting things early before a tantrum to release…[Read more]
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Wendy Andrews replied to the topic Healing cries in the forum General forum for peaceful parenting related questions and discussions 8 years, 8 months ago
You’re welcome Bianca 🙂
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Wendy Andrews replied to the topic Healing cries in the forum General forum for peaceful parenting related questions and discussions 8 years, 8 months ago
that’s really great to hear Colette, re: my comment being timely…. and yay for another parent coming on board there at the Playcentre.
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Wendy Andrews replied to the topic Healing cries in the forum General forum for peaceful parenting related questions and discussions 8 years, 8 months ago
Bianca, generally, a child will generally not push or do anything for a limit to be necessary unless there is some stored emotional tension there. If, say, they do something that you tell them is not safe, they are likely to listen and cooperate, move to something else, if there is no stored emotional tension. If they are rigidly insisting on…[Read more]
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Wendy Andrews replied to the topic Healing cries in the forum General forum for peaceful parenting related questions and discussions 8 years, 8 months ago
Colette, firstly, apologies for only just seeing this, we’re all trying to find a rhythm with checking in on the various groups.
It is very courageous of you to post here with people you don’t know and I hear your feelings of vulnerability.
With regard to shouting at your son, please know that at the very least, 90% of all parents trying to be…[Read more]
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Wendy Andrews replied to the topic Self forgiveness in the forum Self-healing 8 years, 9 months ago
I hear you Sara. This is where our children are the can openers into our own tightly sealed past. Awareness of the possibility of this is a good start. The great thing is, you don’t need to remember any details for yourself. You can just aim the same kindness at yourself that you are aiming for with Alex. Kristen Neff is a person who comes to mind…[Read more]
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