The Peaceful Parent Institute – Genevieve Simperingham | Wendy Andrews | Activity https://www.peacefulparent.com/member-listing/wendywren/activity/ Activity feed for Wendy Andrews. Fri, 28 Aug 2026 04:22:31 +1200 https://buddypress.org/?v= en-NZ 30 hourly 2 329828a4a063a5084173204fe84bd5bf Wendy Andrews replied to the topic Sympathising to hurts in the forum General forum for peaceful parenting related questions and discussions https://www.peacefulparent.com/groups/general-forum-for-peaceful-parenting-related-questions-and-discussions/forum/topic/sympathising-to-hurts/#post-8594 Thu, 23 Aug 2018 05:47:29 +1200 Hi Trudy, in response to your last comment on this thread, it may then pay to simply be an empathetic ear to your friend, asking her about the particular stresses in her life and either leaving it at that good listening or coming up with a solution or two that works for everyone. Easing the Mama’s stress will likely have flow on positive effects…Read more

]]> 14ecd58805cad97ec4de06faaa995950 Wendy Andrews replied to the topic Learn about changing your brain's default mode from criticism to being present in the forum Self-healing https://www.peacefulparent.com/groups/self-healing/forum/topic/learn-about-changing-your-brains-default-mode-from-criticism-to-being-present/#post-5545 Tue, 17 May 2016 08:11:12 +1200 I got to hear half of it too and found it fascinating.

]]> f7e351eae55f21f3f787cde5a1f88551 Wendy Andrews replied to the topic Meditation and self-awareness in the forum Self-healing https://www.peacefulparent.com/groups/self-healing/forum/topic/meditation-and-self-awareness/#post-5488 Tue, 12 Apr 2016 06:20:29 +1200 That’s fantastic Gina. I’m putting this free online resource link here. It’s for the Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction course I’ve attended twice now…this resource even includes the mindfulness/meditation exercises in the left hand column.
(‘mindfulness’ is a term used in this course mainly, I think, for people who have negative reactions to…Read more

]]> 2622a767189346fb7608d844746a1e1d Wendy Andrews started the topic childhood story in the forum Self-healing https://www.peacefulparent.com/groups/self-healing/forum/topic/childhood-story/ Fri, 01 Apr 2016 03:51:28 +1300 A tribute to the child that you were: “There is real healing power in creating a cohesive story of our early life – a story woven with love and compassion for the child we once were. Sadly, most of us don’t recognise the bravery, determination and resourcefulness we showed as children in the face of often considerable challenges. Rather than…Read more

]]> 65905ee7d785ab45b1da39c6c6efac75 Wendy Andrews replied to the topic Introduce yourself in the forum Self-healing https://www.peacefulparent.com/groups/self-healing/forum/topic/introduce-yourself-12/#post-5300 Tue, 01 Mar 2016 05:44:46 +1300 Hi Denisa, I hear your frustration and pain.

I want to reassure you that you can absolutely recover from the trauma of your past (and I’m so sorry it was so awful).

There are reasons your sister is different. She may have a different temperament; you may be more empathetic/sensitive, so daily life may have affected you more; you may have had…Read more

]]> 9c4456e0031563e1f5a5d238c29ef1c5 Wendy Andrews replied to the topic Toddler aggression in the forum General forum for peaceful parenting related questions and discussions https://www.peacefulparent.com/groups/general-forum-for-peaceful-parenting-related-questions-and-discussions/forum/topic/toddler-aggression/#post-5172 Thu, 11 Feb 2016 06:15:48 +1300 I hear your frustration! I was wondering similar to Bianca, Martine. If you can anticipate that the lashing out WILL continue until whatever it is, is out of her system, you may be able to stop the hit just as it’s about to happen, which is when the feelings are at the top of their arc….and where the warm limit can have the most effect i.e.…Read more

]]> 5aea60a2edbcfef75ff40de68ab581a3 Wendy Andrews replied to the topic Aha moments about the effect of sibling relationships in the forum Self-healing https://www.peacefulparent.com/groups/self-healing/forum/topic/aha-moments-about-the-effect-of-sibling-relationships/#post-5102 Mon, 28 Dec 2015 06:33:03 +1300 You’re welcome Bianca, would love to hear how you go.

]]> 39423da3941ef19c4c19c13d126f54ed Wendy Andrews replied to the topic cPTSD not an excuse but awareness is key in the forum General forum for peaceful parenting related questions and discussions https://www.peacefulparent.com/groups/general-forum-for-peaceful-parenting-related-questions-and-discussions/forum/topic/cptsd-not-an-excuse-but-awareness-is-key/#post-5099 Sun, 27 Dec 2015 22:56:40 +1300 Bianca, if you are looking for articles to explain cptsd to others, one of the best websites I’ve come across by a guy who is walking the path himself, as well as helping many others, is
http://www.pete-walker.com

He can sometimes be a little hard to read (I have to go over and over some bits) but I relate to SO MUCH of what he is saying, once I figure it out!!

]]> 13e41958ca7767e4f181822c652fedf0 Wendy Andrews replied to the topic Aha moments about the effect of sibling relationships in the forum Self-healing https://www.peacefulparent.com/groups/self-healing/forum/topic/aha-moments-about-the-effect-of-sibling-relationships/#post-5098 Sun, 27 Dec 2015 11:06:24 +1300 Another thing to add to Tab’s great ideas, Bianca, is to list all the ways your son is similar to your brother and then all the ways he is different. This helps the mind consciously separate the two people who’s few similarities have got linked.It’s great that you’re on to it!

]]> fb2416d858976d20faa0b87888be479d Wendy Andrews replied to the topic Meditations - do we need to come off guided ones? in the forum Self-healing https://www.peacefulparent.com/groups/self-healing/forum/topic/meditations-do-we-need-to-come-off-guided-ones/#post-4849 Thu, 26 Nov 2015 05:51:02 +1300 Hi Bianca, I’ve read a couple of your other posts and am responding to this one first. I have also found it helpful to group my main issues under the CPTSD heading for now. And, this year, I’ve attended two Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction courses.
If you are like me and dissociation has been a lifelong coping strategy, I don’t see myself…Read more

]]> 9f3aad21e456ecd316c3db1330109f9f Wendy Andrews replied to the topic Healing cries in the forum General forum for peaceful parenting related questions and discussions https://www.peacefulparent.com/groups/general-forum-for-peaceful-parenting-related-questions-and-discussions/forum/topic/healing-cries/#post-4445 Thu, 20 Aug 2015 11:42:27 +1200 One other important point in regard to the holding Bianca: it is essential that, really, any type of ‘holding’ is at the bottom of the list of things to try. It can be more useful to think of it as ‘corralling’, if people and things need protecting….and of course always preferable to aim for spotting things early before a tantrum to release…Read more

]]> d0cb3251a5e6600a21cc59177f6f72cd Wendy Andrews replied to the topic Healing cries in the forum General forum for peaceful parenting related questions and discussions https://www.peacefulparent.com/groups/general-forum-for-peaceful-parenting-related-questions-and-discussions/forum/topic/healing-cries/#post-4444 Thu, 20 Aug 2015 11:31:49 +1200 You’re welcome Bianca 🙂

]]> 1b4b6e7122aea37a5d2c839cefe5f07e Wendy Andrews replied to the topic Healing cries in the forum General forum for peaceful parenting related questions and discussions https://www.peacefulparent.com/groups/general-forum-for-peaceful-parenting-related-questions-and-discussions/forum/topic/healing-cries/#post-4443 Thu, 20 Aug 2015 11:31:27 +1200 that’s really great to hear Colette, re: my comment being timely…. and yay for another parent coming on board there at the Playcentre.

]]> 2e10fb63d7a1236c37e43e5452139062 Wendy Andrews replied to the topic Healing cries in the forum General forum for peaceful parenting related questions and discussions https://www.peacefulparent.com/groups/general-forum-for-peaceful-parenting-related-questions-and-discussions/forum/topic/healing-cries/#post-4418 Sun, 16 Aug 2015 03:51:34 +1200 Bianca, generally, a child will generally not push or do anything for a limit to be necessary unless there is some stored emotional tension there. If, say, they do something that you tell them is not safe, they are likely to listen and cooperate, move to something else, if there is no stored emotional tension. If they are rigidly insisting on…Read more

]]> 1e84c012804e0d9c43b54c174569f966 Wendy Andrews replied to the topic Healing cries in the forum General forum for peaceful parenting related questions and discussions https://www.peacefulparent.com/groups/general-forum-for-peaceful-parenting-related-questions-and-discussions/forum/topic/healing-cries/#post-4417 Sun, 16 Aug 2015 03:45:12 +1200 Colette, firstly, apologies for only just seeing this, we’re all trying to find a rhythm with checking in on the various groups.

It is very courageous of you to post here with people you don’t know and I hear your feelings of vulnerability.

With regard to shouting at your son, please know that at the very least, 90% of all parents trying to be…Read more

]]> fe420388d9b3c9b25364da8f031f967f Wendy Andrews replied to the topic Self forgiveness in the forum Self-healing https://www.peacefulparent.com/groups/self-healing/forum/topic/self-forgiveness/#post-4186 Thu, 02 Jul 2015 05:18:37 +1200 I hear you Sara. This is where our children are the can openers into our own tightly sealed past. Awareness of the possibility of this is a good start. The great thing is, you don’t need to remember any details for yourself. You can just aim the same kindness at yourself that you are aiming for with Alex. Kristen Neff is a person who comes to mind…Read more

]]> 995bf01a321086374a99f672bcc7745e Wendy Andrews replied to the topic Self forgiveness in the forum Self-healing https://www.peacefulparent.com/groups/self-healing/forum/topic/self-forgiveness/#post-4075 Fri, 26 Jun 2015 05:41:08 +1200 Hi Sara, I just want to add the perspective that the tears that seem to be connected to remembering the birth of your child may be tapping into something deeper in you…..sometimes, believe it or not, the birth of our own child can trigger our own experience of being birthed, or a multitude of other unprocessed events in our lives (including…Read more

]]> 32a00e7b03c416a638a4daadd37c346b Wendy Andrews replied to the topic pre-schooler anxiety behaviours- how to support? in the forum General forum for peaceful parenting related questions and discussions https://www.peacefulparent.com/groups/general-forum-for-peaceful-parenting-related-questions-and-discussions/forum/topic/pre-schooler-anxiety-behaviours-how-to-support/#post-4056 Tue, 23 Jun 2015 08:51:42 +1200 Hi Lucy, sorry this has taken a while, I’ve been trying to find a specific passage in Lawrence Cohen’s, The Opposite of Worry, which I’ve finally done. I’ll just type it in here for you (I think you’ll relate from your nail biting days, I know I do):
“Some fidgety behaviours are an attempt at self-comfort. These usually involve rocking, th…Read more

]]> acc2d1a12dee6518c762b49dbfc133f2 Wendy Andrews replied to the topic Food sensory issue or need to heal the fear in the forum Aware Parenting https://www.peacefulparent.com/groups/aware-parenting/forum/topic/food-sensory-issue-or-need-to-heal-the-fear/#post-4026 Sat, 13 Jun 2015 00:40:43 +1200 Tough situation Bianca. I’m not really able to help on the food front for your son but I’m wondering, are you getting to factor in some Special Time/One On One Time with him, perhaps daily, if only for 10 minutes but preferably more like 30 to 60 minutes,where he’s in charge, in the powerful role? Focusing on building connection, rather than on…Read more

]]> 9d8bc36eaa5c472ccde02294f7ed9d83 Wendy Andrews replied to the topic Introduce yourself in the forum Self-healing https://www.peacefulparent.com/groups/self-healing/forum/topic/introduce-yourself-12/#post-3918 Wed, 10 Jun 2015 11:16:09 +1200 Great to meet you Jenni! I’m heading off to bed but just wanted to say a quick hello. Those ARE very heavy losses of family in your life, at such incredibly vulnerable times. And I’m hearing lots of changes in family dynamics at your place right now. I look forward to hearing more.
warmly, Wendy

]]> 2b5a12eaf189c0de9c2d786d5f2534b3 Wendy Andrews replied to the topic Common Ground in the forum Peaceful Partnering https://www.peacefulparent.com/groups/peaceful-partnering/forum/topic/common-ground/#post-3890 Mon, 08 Jun 2015 22:44:40 +1200 These suggestions are very useful to me Meg and Gen.

]]> bbb6623a125c08150416d29fdcefcca0 Wendy Andrews replied to the topic Introduce yourself in the forum Self-healing https://www.peacefulparent.com/groups/self-healing/forum/topic/introduce-yourself-12/#post-3888 Mon, 08 Jun 2015 22:36:55 +1200 lovely to read more about you Anja and Sara. It’s such a big, ongoing journey for some of us hey, glad to feel your presence in the carriages of this roller coaster ride that is life, parenting and partnering.

]]> a4783b2d7dc1552d5eea0834134e0217 Wendy Andrews replied to the topic Self forgiveness in the forum Self-healing https://www.peacefulparent.com/groups/self-healing/forum/topic/self-forgiveness/#post-3866 Sat, 06 Jun 2015 12:17:38 +1200 Hi Colette, I offer you this poem by Mary Oliver, called Wild Geese (you may know it). I cry every time I read it and every time, I heal a little more:

You do not have to be good.
You do not have to walk on your knees
For a hundred miles through the desert, repenting.
You only have to let the soft animal of your body
love what it loves.
Tell me…Read more

]]> 4b5ea55f58ac7d9374cbe190ffcec9a7 Wendy Andrews replied to the topic Introduce yourself in the forum Self-healing https://www.peacefulparent.com/groups/self-healing/forum/topic/introduce-yourself-12/#post-3861 Sat, 06 Jun 2015 12:01:27 +1200 thank you Gen, I am doing the daily ‘body scan’ practice and it’s certainly highlighting that I’m really not ‘in’ my body very much and, where I thought it was my adult self I was hearing most often in my head, I think it’s actually still the hurt little girl….always room for plenty more growth and learning hey!

]]> 84ddb5501953b63b2c4aef7cc72057fb Wendy Andrews replied to the topic Healing cries in the forum General forum for peaceful parenting related questions and discussions https://www.peacefulparent.com/groups/general-forum-for-peaceful-parenting-related-questions-and-discussions/forum/topic/healing-cries/#post-3834 Wed, 03 Jun 2015 22:33:14 +1200 oh yes, good point Meg and Tab, if it’s not clear that it’s the limit that’s needed (i.e. it seems unreasonable to not go along with them), they will definitely provide another opportunity in the near future, if not the very next moment, where you can go, ‘ok, I get it now, it’s obviously not about fulfilling everything, they’re actually LOOKING…Read more

]]> 19e24ee51372b86bfa228d26387cc9cc Wendy Andrews replied to the topic Healing cries in the forum General forum for peaceful parenting related questions and discussions https://www.peacefulparent.com/groups/general-forum-for-peaceful-parenting-related-questions-and-discussions/forum/topic/healing-cries/#post-3829 Wed, 03 Jun 2015 11:49:04 +1200 Hi Leanne, Gen has pretty much laid out my thinking too around this, good on you! I’ll just add a couple of things from my own experience.

I’ve mentioned I had this info from before my daughter’s birth, so when I brought her home, she had two or three massive releases that went for between one and two hours each….her birth had been long and…Read more

]]> f064b3443e118d24268f8c272c6a5c65 Wendy Andrews joined the group Peaceful Partnering https://www.peacefulparent.com/activity/p/2609/ Tue, 02 Jun 2015 23:07:27 +1200 0 0ad049a555eeba8f94dbf9f01b8e0552 Wendy Andrews replied to the topic Introduce yourself in the forum General forum for peaceful parenting related questions and discussions https://www.peacefulparent.com/groups/general-forum-for-peaceful-parenting-related-questions-and-discussions/forum/topic/introduce-yourself-16/#post-3814 Mon, 01 Jun 2015 12:34:42 +1200 Hi everyone
so lovely to read these introductions. I just did one on the self-healing group but thought I’d do a more general, less ‘trauma-focussed’ version here. Some of you know me as an admin from the q&a group and others as a mentor on the ecourses.
Let’s see, I’m a white, working class, heterosexual, married mother of one 15yo girl. We’ve…Read more

]]> 8925da60b62ee65185865a99bcf28805 Wendy Andrews replied to the topic Introduce yourself in the forum Self-healing https://www.peacefulparent.com/groups/self-healing/forum/topic/introduce-yourself-12/#post-3812 Mon, 01 Jun 2015 04:39:54 +1200 ***TRIGGER WARNING*** mention of childhood sexual assault (no details though)

Hi everyone, I can kick off this introduction thing. Many of you know me from the peaceful parent q&a group and/or mentoring on the ecourse here.
Some random facts: I was born in New Zealand but also lived in Wales, England and Australia as a child, the last being…Read more

]]> edb4f04ba57a270c1fb480cbae903013 Wendy Andrews replied to the topic Meditation in healing the effects of trauma on the brain in the forum General forum for peaceful parenting related questions and discussions https://www.peacefulparent.com/groups/general-forum-for-peaceful-parenting-related-questions-and-discussions/forum/topic/meditation-in-healing-the-effects-of-trauma-on-the-brain-2/#post-3784 Wed, 27 May 2015 09:58:35 +1200 I really enjoyed this talk, thanks Genevieve

]]> 18217fb416d702adc640034548dd2b64 Wendy Andrews posted a new activity comment https://www.peacefulparent.com/activity/p/1085/#acomment-1141 Mon, 12 Jan 2015 04:25:14 +1300 Hi Christy, I thought I’d replied a few days ago, sorry for the delay…it must have not got past the inside of my head!
You are doing everything right, from your description. It’s wonderful that you and your partner play with your boys and I hear it’s never enough for your eldest.
What is happening when you apply the limit of ‘no more’ is he is…Read more

In reply to - Christy Langman posted an update in the group December eCourse with Tabitha and Wendy My husband and I have difficulty meeting my oldest son’s (almost 8 years old) connection needs. He needs a lot of adult […] ]]> 8e7445ad0443893687c1d0906a7bcc37 Wendy Andrews joined the group Village Green General Forum https://www.peacefulparent.com/activity/p/1131/ Sat, 10 Jan 2015 04:58:06 +1300 0 aa8539d7e330ee702e55598ca6d59985 Wendy Andrews and Gosia1150 are now friends https://www.peacefulparent.com/activity/p/1108/ Fri, 09 Jan 2015 10:26:02 +1300 0 bcb05ef087402c0f5c5ed90a8ca14b4e Wendy Andrews joined the group Aware Parenting https://www.peacefulparent.com/activity/p/1093/ Thu, 08 Jan 2015 07:31:21 +1300 0 5000e2d36a05ffacbaddf1e9579f9663 Wendy Andrews posted an update in the group December eCourse with Tabitha and Wendy: Christy, it is lovely to hear what you and your partner are […] https://www.peacefulparent.com/activity/p/1086/ Wed, 07 Jan 2015 20:38:34 +1300 Christy, it is lovely to hear what you and your partner are doing. What I am hearing is that safety is building for your son and when you bring the limit of time ending after some nice connection, some old feelings are pouring out. Sometimes it’s a simple matter of tweaking our perspective on what is actually going on.
If you come from the angle…Read more

]]> 1 6814df69ab09d81bb1650d02a793ee80 Wendy Andrews and Joanne Connors are now friends https://www.peacefulparent.com/activity/p/1056/ Sat, 03 Jan 2015 03:46:56 +1300 0 4deb599af15aa789ae7bfa51fc6da328 Wendy Andrews replied to the topic Small Sucesss in the forum Daily Reflections https://www.peacefulparent.com/forum_main/topic/small-sucesss/#post-2654 Sun, 21 Dec 2014 06:41:56 +1300 such genuine connection, that’s lovely to read, thanks for sharing Angela, may there be much, much more of it for you both.

]]> 554ed034ab72da78655bf51473759f60 Wendy Andrews and Micole Chenoweth are now friends https://www.peacefulparent.com/activity/p/1004/ Wed, 17 Dec 2014 09:32:56 +1300 0 7b27f2a6f0548b6a937fcd74a70554bf Wendy Andrews and Jacqueline Carroll are now friends https://www.peacefulparent.com/activity/p/992/ Tue, 16 Dec 2014 14:12:39 +1300 0 ee4f88a9386d1459c8aefb4f7dc2904b Wendy Andrews and Sara Donetto are now friends https://www.peacefulparent.com/activity/p/974/ Mon, 15 Dec 2014 11:15:47 +1300 0 870e77b7cd0e92659c43105f5d76e655 Wendy Andrews and Nicole . are now friends https://www.peacefulparent.com/activity/p/969/ Sun, 14 Dec 2014 23:54:10 +1300 0 9bdac3d1b54959e41ad3b1f4590fe910 Wendy Andrews and Christy Langman are now friends https://www.peacefulparent.com/activity/p/963/ Sun, 14 Dec 2014 16:17:30 +1300 0 7ccf93c9c195ae8497cb8ea270e2f75c Wendy Andrews posted an update in the group December eCourse with Tabitha and Wendy: Hi all, Genevieve has set up a new drop down menu named […] https://www.peacefulparent.com/activity/p/957/ Sun, 14 Dec 2014 04:16:39 +1300 Hi all, Genevieve has set up a new drop down menu named ‘courses’ in the blue bar at the top of this page. In it, you’ll find easier access to this forum and course materials. Looking forward to hearing how you’re all going and further updates 🙂

]]> 2 737d73894fbbae27b5f1a88d35f60e1b Wendy Andrews and Meg Rodney are now friends https://www.peacefulparent.com/activity/p/955/ Sun, 14 Dec 2014 03:34:32 +1300 0 e8a6558e626eb3d44851fe5252bfa105 Wendy Andrews and Lucy McGilchrist are now friends https://www.peacefulparent.com/activity/p/951/ Sat, 13 Dec 2014 12:16:51 +1300 0 0de09e27294498bca107e1c778e097d7 Wendy Andrews and Sara Trafford are now friends https://www.peacefulparent.com/activity/p/947/ Sat, 13 Dec 2014 06:33:55 +1300 0 215f8aa3539f3eb390111a7c513b8070 Wendy Andrews and Angela are now friends https://www.peacefulparent.com/activity/p/942/ Sat, 13 Dec 2014 02:38:41 +1300 0 d06381fdff8030befeb7312d79e4a5a4 Wendy Andrews replied to the topic Centre, Connect, Communicate - Day 6 in the forum Daily Reflections https://www.peacefulparent.com/forum_main/topic/centre-connect-communicate-day-6/#post-2597 Fri, 12 Dec 2014 11:10:02 +1300 I hear you Micole, it can be a long, slow journey to self-compassion, let alone PRAISE of oneself! Guilt is SO unpleasant isn’t it. We live in such a shaming culture and one result of having been shamed incessantly as little ones is an abundance of feelings of guilt in adulthood. Were you close in age to a sibling yourself? Sometimes old feelings…Read more

]]> a86c6adae7908999cc87ddae268a656a Wendy Andrews and Mel Roberts are now friends https://www.peacefulparent.com/activity/p/921/ Fri, 12 Dec 2014 09:28:15 +1300 0 d27d2cd73902311bf0e59ed2db6754e3 Wendy Andrews and Christine Oriel are now friends https://www.peacefulparent.com/activity/p/914/ Fri, 12 Dec 2014 04:47:25 +1300 0