Hope you received the emails about the live round of Mama Meltdown. So far we’ve looked at Why we explode & Overwhelm & Anger.
Why we Explode
If you are working through it with us – how is it going so far?
I went through the questions and audio again. So valuable to revisit!
I love the reminder about anger and needs. I was just talking with someone recently about how anger is so frowned upon and I think I’m still working through anger and how to be angry without either ignoring it or saying things I wish I hadn’t. For me I think it also links in with boundaries. I read something about how we can need to be angry to have the courage to set boundaries. Not just with our kids but in general. I can definitely relate to that in myself and my family.
In my reflections of the audio, overwhelm often comes when my attention is split too many ways and I have too many things to do. Also when my kids have big feelings – if it takes me by surprise and I’m feeling prepared. And especially when those two things come together!! Big feelings when I’m also thinking of 50 other things. 🙂
So in the moment I need, a break, a hug, a reminder that we’re safe and don’t need to fix the feelings.
Beforehand I need, enough time (better time management and ditching or delegating what’s not a priority), breaks to myself (a bit easier now my kids are older), less distractions like wasting time on my phone!, grounding practices and time to reflect on the tricky moments.