This was so powerful - Love is not enough, we need good communication skills to enable love to be bigger than the conflict. Coming from and having married into a family that each has very poor and different types of toxic communication patterns, it's a constant challenge...

Seonaid, I recognise chores being a trigger as an echo of my own raging, cleaning mother. Also the whirl that descends over me in the moment, moving quickly with my head down, working almost manically to bust through as much as possible before the whole lot overwhelms me,...