Peaceful Partnering

[Genevieve Simperingham]

It can be incredibly hard for a partner or spouse to figure out if how they’re being treated is ok or not, is normal or not, is healthy or unhealthy. We all gain the templates from our family of origin that as children we were brain washed into thinking was just “how things were” or was the treatment we deserved, or that it isn’t realistic to expect any better. How our caregivers treated us taught us what love and relationships look like and it then takes a lot of work to pull it all apart and question what really was or wasn’t ok or normal. But like in any other situation in our life, identifying that something is a problem or unhealthy is the first step towards bringing about change.

There’s also a lot of helpful information on the Are you Ok website for people who may be suffering intimate partner violence. http://areyouok.org.nz

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