School Age Children

Improve your relationship with your school age child 5 - 12 years.

When peaceful parenting isn’t working! What’s missing?    

 It takes a lot of hard work to become a more mindful parent.  It’s very easy to just say what’s on our minds, and to seek cooperation through orders, threats or guilt trips, “just do it!”, “if you don’t do it, then … you just don’t want to find out!“, “I’m at my wits end Read More

Sibling Struggles

Parents understandably want their children to love each other, to care about each other and to hopefully learn healthy ways of working through differences.   Witnessing acts of kindness between siblings is incredibly heart-melting for parents.  Sibling conflict, on the other hand, is difficult to deal with, and when an older child directs their frustration at Read More

My body belongs to me

Body autonomy, boundaries and consent As I was lighting the fire in the living room lately, my 14 year old daughter and her friend were studying for a health test the next day on the subject of sexuality and gender.  It was refreshing listening to their very open, down to earth approach to the topic, Read More

Parenting differently from family or friends

The trials of being a peaceful parent pioneer By Genevieve Simperingham  (first published in the Natural Parent Magazine) Do you sometimes feel challenged in your attempts to be a more peaceful parent in a society that’s less than compassionate towards the differences and struggles of parents and children?  Many parents are surprised about the tensions Read More

Parenting differently from family or friends Part II

  The trials of being a peaceful parent pioneer By Genevieve Simperingham  (first published in the Natural Parent Magazine) In Part I Genevieve wrote about the courage it takes to parent differently, the instinctive need to fit in and gain approval, the struggle of parenting differently from your partner, coming to peace with our individual Read More

Peacefully parenting your anxious or resistant child

Peacefully parenting your anxious or resistant child So many adults didn’t gain the emotional support they needed growing up as they navigated friendships, social challenges and generally adapting to new environments, situations and activities.  The majority of adults also now experience mild to severe anxiety in social situations, in new environments or when learning new Read More

The science of emotion – Gordon Neufeld’s developmental model

The Science of Emotion First printed in The Natural Parent Magazine I’ve just spent five very rich days listening to Dr. Goldon Neufeld talk at the Parenting Place in Auckland on the topics of the science of emotion, aggression, bullying, discipline without punishment, alpha children, anxiety, the challenges of parenting in a digital world and Read More

Why not to ignore your child or put them in time out

We should ignore the child when they act out! – Or should we? By Genevieve Simperingham Parents are often urged to put their child in time out when they exhibit unwanted behaviour.  When the child resists going to sleep and repeatedly gets out of bed, parents are advised to steer the child back to bed, Read More

If you want your teenager to be patient, reasonable, and understanding …

Last night I was saying goodnight to DD (13) when she started telling me about all the reasons why she feels she really wants a certain phone.  She was making some really good points, but I didn’t reflect that, my rising stress about the sleep she needed led me to cut to the chase and Read More

Peacefully parenting your strong willed child

Peacefully Parenting your Strong Willed Child Some parents have said that peaceful parenting wouldn’t work, or hasn’t worked, with their strong willed child, that they need a more strict approach.  And indeed each child is unique and each parent child relationship is both unique and complex.  Yet, I believe that peaceful parenting is especially important for Read More