Relationships with baby-to-be, newborn or baby up to 17 months.

Sibling Struggles

Parents understandably want their children to love each other, to care about each other and to hopefully learn healthy ways of working through differences.   Witnessing acts of kindness between siblings is incredibly heart-melting for parents.  Sibling conflict, on the other hand, is difficult to deal with, and when an older child directs their frustration at Read More

Sleep training – research highlights the myth of self-soothing

  Sleep training is sold as being beneficial, not just to the sleep deprived parent, but also to the baby who apparently learns to “self-soothe”.  However the lead researcher, Wendy Middlemiss, of a recently published study provides evidence that although the babies soon display lessened distress at the lack of responsiveness from their parent during sleep Read More

Secure attachment fosters emotional and social intelligence

Attachment theory helps us understand the processes by which children form healthy secure emotional connections to their parents and caregivers.  It is based on the results of extensive studies of the parent child relationship over previous decades. In recent years, research has shown that secure attachment is connected to the development of social skills, emotional intelligence Read More

Relaxed settled babies tend to sleep better

A mother asked this question: “I’ve been trying to practice Aware Parenting, tuning in to when my child needs to have a stress releasing cry and have been working hard to not distract her out of her cry.  I recognize that I’m the one who has difficulty with her crying and he needs me to Read More

Peaceful Parenting Basic Principles

By Genevieve Simperingham Active Listening Active Listening fosters trust and models respectful communication.  Children learn to listen well through the experience of being heard well.  It’s about listening with interest, with presence, and positive reflection, which invites open and honest two way communication. Give lots of positive messages through your non-verbal cues, face, body, tone Read More

Active listening improves communication in the parent child relationship

Why won’t my child listen to me?  Why won’t she open up when it’s obvious that something’s bothering her?  Why does he answer back?  Why does she shout rather than talk when she gets upset?  Why does he lash out when frustrated rather than seeking my support?  Why do they lie? Active Listening is a Read More

Why do many parents struggle to cope with their child’s cries?

by Genevieve Simperingham First published in The Natural Parent Magazine. “When their baby cries, mothers feel exasperated, afraid, anxious, unloving, resentful and confused.”  According to Dr. Aletha Solter in her book, “Tears and Tantrums”: “Children’s tears and tantrums elicit strong feelings in adults.  A survey in the US asked new mothers to describe their feelings Read More

Children and babies can heal through in arms crying

Children are born with an innate natural ability to bring themselves back to balance after upsets, frustrations, frights, exhaustion,  over-stimulation, or even trauma.  Children re-balance through their play, through laughter, through closeness and affection.  And another, less understood, way that they achieve this re-balancing is through crying! As long as someone who loves them can Read More

The benefits of spending quality one on one time with your child

By Genevieve Simperingham Investing in regular quality time with your child, especially when you let your child lead the activities, can result in your child generally feeling so much more settled, less stressed, more secure, confident and more cooperative.  Creating quality time with each child also tends to greatly minimize sibling rivalry.  Children crave quality Read More

Keeping the lines of communication with your child open

Children need to feel emotionally safe in their family, which means that they can trust that their feelings and thoughts will be responded to with the sensitivity and respect that they deserve.  This level of trust is what allows children to be honest about what they really feel and really need, honest when they’ve done Read More