Making chores more inviting

This article offers some tips to maintain a positive atmosphere around chores in the family and generally help build the team spirit. The only cooperation worth having is that which is given freely by a child, not because he has been frightened into obedience, but because he feels loved, respected, and understood, and consequently wants Read More

Setting limits can bring healing tears and tantrums

Setting limits can bring healing tears and tantrums It’s important to express the limits that prevent aggressive or destructive behaviour, and express the many requests that are part of getting things done on any one day, yet it doesn’t improve their behaviour or their emotional wellbeing if we’re critical, angry, harsh or punitive.  In fact, Read More

Family Meetings

My kids so often come out with little gems that I think I should record but rarely do.  But here’s one to share that really lit me up with that reassuring sense of “yes! you’ve really got that one sussed!”. We were all four of us sitting around to have one of our family meetings. Read More

Grumpy children need our sweetness and nothing else will do

When children are upset and unsettled, they need empathy and connection before solutions or suggestions.  They need to get their feelings out and to see that we’re noticing and caring about those feelings.  From the smallest to the biggest problems, they need to see that we care before they can open to our suggestions, our Read More

Does your child take you seriously when you say “no”?

Children have a way of knowing when we mean what we say.  And they know when we don’t really mean what we say.  And sometimes they can become very confused and even insecure when we give mixed messages; our words say one thing, but our tone of voice and body language say another; “OK! Get Read More