Bronwyn asks: Genevieve, I'm at my wits end. My 3.5 year old has decided to just keep wetting her pants. She says she's too busy to go to the toilet and just takes her pants off to continue playing. She's not experiencing any negative consequence for wetting herself so she just doesn't care. We ask her regularly and she says no she doesn't want to go and then promptly wets herself.
If I threatened her with nappies (which I haven't) she'd probably be okay with that because she knows she could keep playing without worrying about the toilet. She only ever asks to go to the toilet when it's poo. I guess it's just my frustration around her choosing consciously to go in her pants. She knows she won't get in trouble and can just go and get another pair of pants. She knows she's supposed to use the toilet. She'll ask to be taken to the toilet for wee if we're out and about but at home she just doesn't care. I'm over the washing and wet patches on my carpet. What am I missing?
This is a great little clip to help us remember that she just doesn't have enough wiring in the brain yet to get all those connections that we can't help but desperately want them to get - including empathy and consideration of sister's or parent's perspective;