Helping little people deal with their big feelings

Young children can feel and express a lot of big feelings!  Figuring out how to best deal with their upsets is all part of the job of parenting.  Children cry when they fall, when they get a fright, when another kid jumps on the swing they had their heart set on. They can cry when they’re Read More

Grumpy children need our sweetness and nothing else will do

When children are upset and unsettled, they need empathy and connection before solutions or suggestions.  They need to get their feelings out and to see that we’re noticing and caring about those feelings.  From the smallest to the biggest problems, they need to see that we care before they can open to our suggestions, our Read More

Helping children adapt to change

Heraclitus, the Greek philosopher is quoted as saying; “The Only Thing That Is Constant Is Change” Because children are constantly grappling with lots of new information, environments, activities, expectations, people and so much more, it stands to reason that the more time they spend in the places and with the things, the rituals and the Read More

Helping Children Move from Conflict to Conflict Resolution

Click here to Subscribe to receive other articles and updates. “You can’t, and it’s better if you don’t, solve all of your child’s problems, but you can share them.” I was recently at a social gathering where gangs of children swarmed around the house and the land, while adults socialized. As I chatted with friends, I Read More

Empathy makes difficult feelings much less difficult

Originally published in Kiwi Families online parenting resource. For our children, just the same as it is for us, there are times when they have their big difficult feelings that really need loving attention.  No matter how committed we are as parents, our children still have their daily ups and downs and sometimes their frustrations Read More