Helping children adapt to an early childhood centre or carer

Hispanic Mom with Child in Home School Setting Showing Craft

Young children have a strong need to have access to at least one attachment figure, a person who they feel bonded and connected with, who they feel is holding their care and best interests in their mind and heart and someone who they are confident they can access their needs from, be it a drink Read More

Peacefully parenting your strong willed child


Some parents have said that peaceful parenting wouldn’t work, or hasn’t worked, with their strong willed child, that they need a more strict approach.  And indeed each child is unique and each parent child relationship is both unique and very complex.  Yet, I believe that all in all peaceful parenting is especially important for the very Read More

Raising children to feel at peace in themselves


As parents, we wish for our children to grow up ready to tackle and enjoy life to the full.  We want them to grow in confidence, to stand tall in their unique self, with their dignity and self-esteem intact, balanced with empathy and care for others. The child who grows up being able to access Read More

Making tasks and chores more inviting


This article offers some tips to help build the team spirit in the family. The only cooperation worth having is that which is given freely by a child, not because he has been frightened into obedience, but because he feels loved, respected, and understood, and consequently wants to treat his parents with love and respect in Read More

Organizing an active listening partnership with another adult

parent coaching

Listening heals Counselling and psychotherapy can give a parent the safe, confidential and non-judgmental space they need to explore and resolve stuck feelings and patterns from the past that can prevent growth in the present.  It just is incredibly difficult to remain patient and truly present with our children’s emotions and difficulties unless we ourselves Read More

The power of play

healing power of play

First published in The Natural Parent Magazine, New Zealand.   Play provides children with a rich world of engagement, fun, communication, learning and exploring. When a child climbs a tree, they not only stretch and strengthen their muscles, develop their coordination, and explore their edges with height and balance, they also deeply bond with the Read More

Helping little people deal with their big feelings


Young children can feel and express a lot of big feelings!  Figuring out how to best deal with their upsets is all part of the job of parenting.  Children cry when they fall, when they get a fright, when another kid jumps on the swing they had their heart set on. They can cry when they’re Read More

Sleep training – research highlights the myth of self-soothing

crying babe

  Sleep training is sold as being beneficial, not just to the sleep deprived parent, but also to the baby who apparently learns to “self-soothe”.  However the lead researcher, Wendy Middlemiss, of a recently published study provides evidence that although the babies soon display lessened distress at the lack of responsiveness from their parent during sleep Read More

Avoiding stress overload

Mischievous Little Girls

Managing those stress levels.  Learning to identify when your stress levels are rising as early as possible and then finding other ways of gaining relief from the frustration will all help you avoid reaching the point of overload that can result in yelling or being overly impatient and controlling. The person who grew up in Read More

Children need reassurances when their parent is grumpy


Children need lots of reassurances when their parent gets upset, or even just very stressed. When you’re annoyed at something your child has done, your child will feel those feelings from you and see it in your face and they generally need to know at least something about why you’re upset.  Mostly what they need Read More