Parenting differently from family or friends

The trials of being a peaceful parent pioneer By Genevieve Simperingham  (first published in the Natural Parent Magazine) Do you sometimes feel challenged in your attempts to be a more peaceful parent in a society that’s less than compassionate towards the differences and struggles of parents and children?  Many parents are surprised about the tensions Read More

Parenting differently from family or friends Part II

  The trials of being a peaceful parent pioneer By Genevieve Simperingham  (first published in the Natural Parent Magazine) When children cry or tantrum.  A common challenge relates to how to deal with the interventions of relatives or other parents when one’s child gets really upset, cries or has a tantrum.  Relatives or friends, although Read More

The science of emotion – Gordon Neufeld’s developmental model

The Science of Emotion First printed in The Natural Parent Magazine I’ve just spent five very rich days listening to Dr. Goldon Neufeld talk at the Parenting Place in Auckland on the topics of the science of emotion, aggression, bullying, discipline without punishment, alpha children, anxiety, the challenges of parenting in a digital world and Read More

Why not to ignore your child or put them in time out

We should ignore the child when they act out! – Or should we? By Genevieve Simperingham Parents hear a lot of advice urging them to ignore their child when they exhibit unwanted behaviour.  When the child is resisting going to sleep and repeatedly gets out of bed, parents are advised to put their hands on Read More

If you want your teenager to be patient, reasonable, and understanding …

Last night I was saying goodnight to DD (13) when she started telling me about all the reasons why she feels she really wants a certain phone.  She was making some really good points, but I didn’t reflect that, my rising stress about the sleep she needed led me to cut to the chase and Read More

Helping children adapt to an early childhood centre or carer

Young children have a strong need to have access to at least one attachment figure, a person who they feel bonded and connected with, who they feel is holding their care and best interests in their mind and heart and someone who they are confident they can access their needs from, be it a drink Read More

Peacefully parenting your strong willed child

Peacefully Parenting your Strong Willed Child Some parents have said that peaceful parenting wouldn’t work, or hasn’t worked, with their strong willed child, that they need a more strict approach.  And indeed each child is unique and each parent child relationship is both unique and complex.  Yet, I believe that peaceful parenting is especially important for Read More

Raising children to feel at peace in themselves

As parents, we wish for our children to grow up ready to tackle and enjoy life to the full.  We want them to grow in confidence, to stand tall in their unique self, with their dignity and self-esteem intact, balanced with empathy and care for others. The child who grows up being able to access Read More

Making tasks and chores more inviting

This article offers some tips to help build the team spirit in the family. The only cooperation worth having is that which is given freely by a child, not because he has been frightened into obedience, but because he feels loved, respected, and understood, and consequently wants to treat his parents with love and respect in Read More

Organizing an active listening partnership with another adult

Listening heals Counselling and psychotherapy can give a parent the safe, confidential and non-judgmental space they need to explore and resolve stuck feelings and patterns from the past that can prevent growth in the present.  It just is incredibly difficult to remain patient and truly present with our children’s emotions and difficulties unless we ourselves Read More

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