Why not to ignore your child or put them in time out

We should ignore the child when they act out! – Or should we? By Genevieve Simperingham Parents hear a lot of advice urging them to ignore their child when they exhibit unwanted behaviour.  When the child is resisting going to sleep and repeatedly gets out of bed, parents are advised to put their hands on Read More

If you want your teenager to be patient, reasonable, and understanding …

Last night I was saying goodnight to DD (13) when she started telling me about all the reasons why she feels she really wants a certain phone.  She was making some really good points, but I didn’t reflect that, my rising stress about the sleep she needed led me to cut to the chase and Read More

Helping children adapt to an early childhood centre or carer

Young children have a strong need to have access to at least one attachment figure, a person who they feel bonded and connected with, who they feel is holding their care and best interests in their mind and heart and someone who they are confident they can access their needs from, be it a drink Read More

Peacefully parenting your strong willed child

Peacefully Parenting your Strong Willed Child Some parents have said that peaceful parenting wouldn’t work, or hasn’t worked, with their strong willed child, that they need a more strict approach.  And indeed each child is unique and each parent child relationship is both unique and complex.  Yet, I believe that peaceful parenting is especially important for Read More

Raising children to feel at peace in themselves

As parents, we wish for our children to grow up ready to tackle and enjoy life to the full.  We want them to grow in confidence, to stand tall in their unique self, with their dignity and self-esteem intact, balanced with empathy and care for others. The child who grows up being able to access Read More

Making tasks and chores more inviting

This article offers some tips to help build the team spirit in the family. The only cooperation worth having is that which is given freely by a child, not because he has been frightened into obedience, but because he feels loved, respected, and understood, and consequently wants to treat his parents with love and respect in Read More

Organizing an active listening partnership with another adult

Listening heals Counselling and psychotherapy can give a parent the safe, confidential and non-judgmental space they need to explore and resolve stuck feelings and patterns from the past that can prevent growth in the present.  It just is incredibly difficult to remain patient and truly present with our children’s emotions and difficulties unless we ourselves Read More

The power of play

First published in The Natural Parent Magazine, New Zealand.   Play provides children with a rich world of engagement, fun, communication, learning and exploring. When a child climbs a tree, they not only stretch and strengthen their muscles, develop their coordination, and explore their edges with height and balance, they also deeply bond with the Read More

Helping little people deal with their big feelings

Young children can feel and express a lot of big feelings!  Figuring out how to best deal with their upsets is all part of the job of parenting.  Children cry when they fall, when they get a fright, when another kid jumps on the swing they had their heart set on. They can cry when they’re Read More

Sleep training – research highlights the myth of self-soothing

  Sleep training is sold as being beneficial, not just to the sleep deprived parent, but also to the baby who apparently learns to “self-soothe”.  However the lead researcher, Wendy Middlemiss, of a recently published study provides evidence that although the babies soon display lessened distress at the lack of responsiveness from their parent during sleep Read More